3 Meeting Tips for Buyers and Sellers in Business Transactions

By Michael D. Rubin, CEO & Founder · Updated September 2026 · 843 words

The first meeting between a buyer and a seller works when the buyer arrives with real questions, both sides treat it as the start of a working relationship, and the seller is candid about weak spots as well as strengths. It matters more than most people expect, because the first written offer usually follows soon after it, and the tone of the meeting carries into the price and terms.

The three tips below apply to both sides of the table. Each one is simple, and most meetings that go badly break at least one of them.

Where the meeting sits in a professionally run sale

In a well-run sale, the buyer has already signed a confidentiality agreement, shown it can fund the purchase and read the marketing package before anyone meets. Both sides know a good deal about each other on paper. What the meeting adds is judgment: does this buyer understand the business, and does this owner come across as someone whose numbers can be trusted? In our ten-step process, buyer and seller meetings are step five, and letters of intent follow at step six.

An advisor should brief both parties beforehand: which topics are open, which wait until later (customer names, individual salaries), and who will speak to what. A seller should never be caught off guard by a question the advisor could have predicted.

Tip 1: Buyers, ask questions that prove you did the reading

A buyer who asks what the company does has wasted the owner's afternoon. A buyer who asks why gross margin dipped two years ago, and what changed afterwards, has shown respect and competence in one sentence. Read the package twice, mark every figure that surprised you, think about the industry and its obvious risks, then turn all of it into questions such as these.

Keep it a conversation, not an audit. Detailed document requests belong in due diligence, the buyer's formal check of the records after an offer is accepted.

• How does the owner spend a typical week, and which of those tasks could someone else take over?
• Which customers or suppliers would be hardest to replace, and why do they stay?
• What would the owner invest in next if they were staying another five years?
• Which parts of the operation run on written procedures, and which run on memory?
• Why is the owner selling now?

Tip 2: Build trust before anyone talks about price

Many owners built the company over decades and see it as part of who they are. A buyer who treats it as a spreadsheet, criticizes how things are done or hints at replacing long-serving staff can lose the deal in a single remark, even with the strongest offer. Owners choose buyers they believe will look after the business and its people, and that belief forms in rooms like this one.

Keep the tone professional and warm. Stay away from politics and other subjects that divide people. Listen more than you speak. Sellers have work to do here as well: answer directly, show the operation with pride but without a sales pitch, and treat a buyer's hard questions as a sign of serious interest rather than an insult.

Tip 3: Sellers, name the weak spots before the buyer finds them

Buyers expect every company to have weaknesses. What they do not forgive is discovering one later that the seller kept quiet. If a large customer is up for renewal, a key manager is close to retirement or a competitor has been winning bids, raise it early and explain what you are doing about it. A problem the seller brings up becomes a topic for discussion. The same problem found in due diligence becomes a reason to cut the price or walk away.

The same applies to competition. Claiming the company has no real rivals sounds like spin, and buyers hear it as a warning. Name the competitors, explain why customers choose you and let the numbers back it up.

What happens after the meeting

Expect follow-up questions to come through the advisor rather than by direct calls, and expect the advisor to ask the buyer whether an offer is coming. Buyers should put any concerns from the meeting in writing at this point, so the letter of intent reflects them instead of turning them into a surprise later. Our answer on what happens after a letter of intent covers the next phase. Buyers who want to see companies in a process like this can register through our buyer page.

How MDR & Associates prepares both sides

We represent the seller, and we say so plainly to every buyer. Before a meeting we brief the owner on the questions most likely to come up and the details to hold back for now, and we tell the buyer what the owner cares about beyond price. A principal of the firm is in every negotiation that follows. Whether you are an owner preparing for that first meeting or a buyer who wants to understand how our sales run, contact us for a confidential conversation.

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Questions owners ask next

Should the seller's advisor be in the first meeting?

Usually, yes, at least at the start. The advisor sets the agenda, keeps sensitive details such as customer names and salaries for later, and can steer the conversation away from price before the buyer has the facts. Some advisors step out for part of the meeting so the two sides can talk freely.

Can a buyer bring up price in the first meeting?

It is better not to. Talking numbers before the buyer understands the business anchors both sides too early. The right place for a figure is the letter of intent, the written offer that sets out price, structure and key terms. A buyer can still ask how the owner thinks about value without naming a number.

Where should the meeting take place if employees do not know about the sale?

Away from the business or outside working hours. Many first meetings happen at the advisor's office or another discreet location, with a facility tour arranged for an evening or weekend. A stranger walking the shop floor with the owner during the day invites questions nobody is ready to answer.